It's All Good

This morning (thanks to a really great group that I'm participating in called 40 Miracles in 40 days provided by Mai Vu) I had a new thought. What would my life look like if I just immediately deemed everything that I did "good". For example, that french bread with an entire tablespoon of butter I just ate? Delicious, satisfying and so GOOD. Ok, while I can't lie, it did taste good, I mean the act of choosing to eat it, judging that as good (which admittedly does agitate some stuff in my brain that's listing off nutrition facts at me). I am not even going to try to argue that butter and white flour are healthy, my dear friends who are health nuts. That's not the point I'm trying to get at. I'm just saying that I'm going to skip right over the shame spiral step that usually accompanies such choices and look for the value in my experience. I usually do that, find the value, but later after much agonizing, beating myself up and countless internal "I told you so's". It seems very silly to me in retrospect.

Why beat yourself up for your choices? If you don't think you'd like to make the same choice again, find some reasons to choose differently. You can't go back and undo it. So, another example would be my love of fairly pointless and terribly unproductive television shows like Grey's Anatomy and Scandal. Feeling guilty about choosing to watch them Friday morning gets about as much work done as the time I spent watching them. Maybe even less because now I'm all sad and browbeaten because I've just spent intense time berating myself for the time out. Good luck moving forward and being more productive and purposeful in that frame of mind.

Again, I'm not advocating blowing off all your responsibilities, eating every fattening food in your house and spending every last dollar in your savings on those cute shoes you just had to have that don't even fit well. I'm just saying that there's a whole lot of freedom available if you just choose not to beat yourself up. I suppose, if the concept of judging everything Good really doesn't sit well with you, then perhaps you could just go with trying not to judge but in my personal experience, judging comes as second nature. Rather than trying to shut it down, I'm just working on a little reprogramming and I have to say, today, I feel rather splendid and I'm in a much better mood so I'm now crossing things off my to do list at a quicker pace.

Try it for a day, just to see if you don't agree that truly adopting an It's All Good stance isn't the best possible gift you could give yourself. :)