Who Has the Time?!?

Everyone has a theory about time... Steve Miller says it keeps on slipping into the future. The Rolling Stones say it's on their side. Bob Dylan claims it passes slowly under certain circumstances. In country music Tracy Lawrence tells us that it marches on. The sayings are endless... what doesn't appear to be endless is time free to devote it to whatever we wish.

I say "appear" because certainly, we make time for that which matters to us. We have that ability... to make time. Sooo, when I hear someone tell me that they don't have time to take care of themselves, what they have just told me in no uncertain terms is that their well being doesn't matter. No judgment. Been there, still there on some days. I get it.

It does bring to mind a few questions though. What does matter to me? Who will put time and energy into those things if I can't anymore? When I was at my self care low point and believe me it was low, I never paused to think about what would happen to the things I cared about if I burnt out. I was convinced that somehow I could go on forever without recharging... that it was a guilty pleasure to take time to build myself back up.

I was wrong... Hey, it happens.

Not only did I owe it to myself, but to the people in my life, both personal and those who I worked so many hours to serve.

The same is true for you. If you're too busy to take some time for you, be it a yoga class, some scribbles in a journal, some peaceful meditation or say a Simply Kindred coaching program; you are cheating yourself and your loved ones. Your family, friends and co-workers deserve to be in the presence of a woman who takes care of herself because:

It surrounds your family and friends with hefty chunks of happiness because that’s the energy they’re getting from you.

It teaches the people around you to take care of themselves too – you’re still giving through your example!

It improves the relationships in your life because now that you have taken back control, it’s easier to communicate and interact. Everyone in your life can feel how you’ve loosened up and want to be at the same level of happiness and contentment you’re at.

The people in your life will be positively influenced by the changes you make for yourself. And those changes to yourself will ignite a revolution of YOU:

• You’ll have an easier and more joyful time looking after the people you love because you won’t be so hard on yourself anymore.
• You’ll have a stronger sense of self so that the opinions of others won’t topple your confidence as easily as before.
• You’ll take the time to have fun and relax so you can recharge yourself so you’re well-prepared for what life demands of you.
• You’ll feel in touch with how capable you are so you can maintain a relative balance in your life between work, family, friends, and YOU.
• You’ll feel more in control with what you got going on and you’ll be able to focus on setting tangible goals for your life and achieve them.
• You’ll know exactly what you want so you are NOT easily swayed by other people’s wants and needs. 
• You’ll pause and respond to things, instead of simply reacting without thinking, so you can make more thoughtful responses, so no one gets hurt or offended.

Can you believe all that comes with just taking a few moments to yourself? Some pretty amazing stuff happens when you know your identity and guard the foundation of you. There’s a level of clarity you achieve and a sense of knowing and confidence to make the choices that are best for you and all the people in your life. It’s a beautiful transition to make. The only challenging part is making the declaration to shift.

It’s easy to forget who you are when you’re trying to help everyone else become who they want to be.

It’s time to take yourself back.

Because it makes you a better YOU.

And I can help you do it.


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(re) CHARGE

She can multitask 200 things at once. Even her in-laws think she's the best thing since sliced bread. 
She singlehandedly punched a hole through the glass ceiling, runs her own company and all of her employees love her. She spends her weekends being the team mom for soccer and volunteering at 3 different nonprofits she cares about. She can go out on weeknights with her girlfriends and still make it to yoga class at 6am the next morning. She's never bounced a check and could afford to retire before she turned 30. Her kids are so well behaved people pay her to let them babysit. She never has bad hair days and she actually rocks that spandex outfit with the S on her chest and has made a cape the new in accessory. She makes Superman seem like small potatoes since all he does is save the world. She Runs the world. She's Superwoman.

Here’s the truth:
Our idea of sacrificing everything for our loved ones, being the go-to girl at work or even the next Nobel recognized humanitarian is unsustainable.

Giving is a beautiful thing. But if it’s all we do, we’re in trouble. If we keep reaching down into ourselves to find a piece to give away, we’re eventually going to turn up empty-handed. And that kind of continual cycle takes a toll on us that we do not deserve. Constantly feeling the rush of emotional waves as we’re getting burnt out trying to satisfy the people in all the different areas of our lives is no fun, especially when…

We can give more than we can possibly imagine- easily- if we also took the time to care for ourselves.

I’m not advocating selfishness or saying that we should stop giving... far from it. We superwomen who thrive when we're giving are a special breed. We're here to, well, help save the world. And that's AWESOME. I can't think of a better calling to have in life. I've also seen more than my fair share of us take on too much and neglect to recharge, thinking that because we're givers, we ALWAYS have to be giving.

When I was a fledgling superhero, fresh out of grad school, I spent countless 80 hour work weeks as a social worker bending over backwards fighting for liberty and justice (yep, for All). Help was a 4 letter word to me, unless I was the one doing it. I was tired, cranky and my loved ones were getting something Much less than my best during the limited hours I was home and awake. I thought that because I was doing "do gooder" work that I couldn't possibly stop to take a breather.

I burnt out.

The people I started out loving to help became a burden. I resented extra requests for my time, energy and attention because I didn't have any left. Suddenly even my favorite parts of my job were just tasks to be ticked off my to-do list. My tank wasn't just empty... I'd dumped sugar in there somewhere along the way and now my engine had blown up. Crap crap crappity crap, especially since I don't know a thing about auto repairs. ;)

I wish I could say I figured it out, scaled back my hours and became a slightly less zealous but no less awesome social worker but I didn't even have the energy for that. I was DONE. It took several years to grasp that the one thing that was truly missing was a little of that superwoman power devoted to meeting my own needs.

Are you burnt out, maybe not just at your job but in life? I've been there and back and while it is still my first instinct to give, I now allow myself to receive as well. I deserve it and Not because I have a nifty cape and mask but because I am human and I need to be loved, just like everybody else does. (Sorry, just had to throw in a song lyric... that's the Smiths in case you didn't catch it.) I was able to take back my joy of giving and it didn't take countless hours meditating in a remote mountain location or reading every single self help book known to mankind.

Are you tried of spandex 24/7? How about some comfy jammies and 15 minutes to yourself? The shift is easier than you'd think and the best part is, it's fun and feels amazing. Tell those expectations to stuff it where the sun don't shine. I have Plenty of ideas on the topic and I want to share them with YOU! Here are two ways to get in touch with me:


Click here to book a complimentary Discovery Session with me today. In our hour together, we can discover what it is you truly want, what is keeping you from having it and what needs to shift to get you there. Hopefully we'll laugh and bond over a shared view of the world too, but that's optional.

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