(re) CHARGE

She can multitask 200 things at once. Even her in-laws think she's the best thing since sliced bread. 
She singlehandedly punched a hole through the glass ceiling, runs her own company and all of her employees love her. She spends her weekends being the team mom for soccer and volunteering at 3 different nonprofits she cares about. She can go out on weeknights with her girlfriends and still make it to yoga class at 6am the next morning. She's never bounced a check and could afford to retire before she turned 30. Her kids are so well behaved people pay her to let them babysit. She never has bad hair days and she actually rocks that spandex outfit with the S on her chest and has made a cape the new in accessory. She makes Superman seem like small potatoes since all he does is save the world. She Runs the world. She's Superwoman.

Here’s the truth:
Our idea of sacrificing everything for our loved ones, being the go-to girl at work or even the next Nobel recognized humanitarian is unsustainable.

Giving is a beautiful thing. But if it’s all we do, we’re in trouble. If we keep reaching down into ourselves to find a piece to give away, we’re eventually going to turn up empty-handed. And that kind of continual cycle takes a toll on us that we do not deserve. Constantly feeling the rush of emotional waves as we’re getting burnt out trying to satisfy the people in all the different areas of our lives is no fun, especially when…

We can give more than we can possibly imagine- easily- if we also took the time to care for ourselves.

I’m not advocating selfishness or saying that we should stop giving... far from it. We superwomen who thrive when we're giving are a special breed. We're here to, well, help save the world. And that's AWESOME. I can't think of a better calling to have in life. I've also seen more than my fair share of us take on too much and neglect to recharge, thinking that because we're givers, we ALWAYS have to be giving.

When I was a fledgling superhero, fresh out of grad school, I spent countless 80 hour work weeks as a social worker bending over backwards fighting for liberty and justice (yep, for All). Help was a 4 letter word to me, unless I was the one doing it. I was tired, cranky and my loved ones were getting something Much less than my best during the limited hours I was home and awake. I thought that because I was doing "do gooder" work that I couldn't possibly stop to take a breather.

I burnt out.

The people I started out loving to help became a burden. I resented extra requests for my time, energy and attention because I didn't have any left. Suddenly even my favorite parts of my job were just tasks to be ticked off my to-do list. My tank wasn't just empty... I'd dumped sugar in there somewhere along the way and now my engine had blown up. Crap crap crappity crap, especially since I don't know a thing about auto repairs. ;)

I wish I could say I figured it out, scaled back my hours and became a slightly less zealous but no less awesome social worker but I didn't even have the energy for that. I was DONE. It took several years to grasp that the one thing that was truly missing was a little of that superwoman power devoted to meeting my own needs.

Are you burnt out, maybe not just at your job but in life? I've been there and back and while it is still my first instinct to give, I now allow myself to receive as well. I deserve it and Not because I have a nifty cape and mask but because I am human and I need to be loved, just like everybody else does. (Sorry, just had to throw in a song lyric... that's the Smiths in case you didn't catch it.) I was able to take back my joy of giving and it didn't take countless hours meditating in a remote mountain location or reading every single self help book known to mankind.

Are you tried of spandex 24/7? How about some comfy jammies and 15 minutes to yourself? The shift is easier than you'd think and the best part is, it's fun and feels amazing. Tell those expectations to stuff it where the sun don't shine. I have Plenty of ideas on the topic and I want to share them with YOU! Here are two ways to get in touch with me:


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