God Made Chocolate for Days Like These

I know that I've mentioned it before, a handful of places on my site, but I work with a coach. Sometimes when I say this, people give me a tilted head, one raised eyebrow sort of look as if to say "Ummmm, aren't You a coach? Why don't you just coach yourself?!?" I get it. I used to think Just like that but then I started to pay attention to the number of doctors who smoke, therapists who are addicted to drama and self help gurus who are single and still looking for a great loving relationship. No judgment of these situations, just saying that knowing doesn't always convert into doing...

Somewhere along the way, it clicked. I can go to all the self help seminars I want, but at some point, I need accountability that happens outside of myself because let's face it, we all have those days where you think Fuck Suzy Orman and her damn money advice, I want those new shoes! (insert Weight Watchers/ I want a brownie or Dr. Phil/I just want to send my kids to military school... whatever seems most appropriate) Sometimes just having the tools available doesn't mean you want to use them. That's where coaches come in... sometimes the single most loving thing Lisa can do for me is call me on my whining and complaining and give me a good swift kick in the ass. (She totally rocks that way.)

Sometimes though, even having a coach around to whip me into shape isn't enough to get me actually moving. Sometimes I just plain and simply want to stay stuck. For the longest time I used to beat myself up for those kinds of days... the days where the schnarfy comments someone made Really got under my skin or where I spent far too many hours on Facebook. The sheer unproductiveness of it all made me want to dive into a gallon of chocolate ice cream and list off the countless ways in which I could be a better me. This, my friends, is what is known as resistance and/or contraction. It is Not a state of willingness to move forward. And you know what? Sometimes it's Exactly what I need, even if it doesn't look that way on the surface.

Contraction is our soul's way of saying we're not on the right path... maybe we've been pushing too hard and it's time for some restorative recharging. Maybe we're trying to force our way ahead in our business or our relationships and what's really needed is a perspective switch. The reasons for contraction can be endless but if you pause and ponder Why it's showing up and adjust your course, it's a tremendous gift.

Of course, if you're anything like me, the pause itself might involve a little chocolate, but I say that's a good thing. Heck, it's even gluten free! :)


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